Every single experience

When I see people around me, in any setting, struggling with any problem or any life situation, I often find myself thinking that, somehow, it's all going to be ok for them, because every single experience can lead to something good.  There is always something we can learn about ourselves, there is always some way that we can grow, no matter where we are and what challenges we run into.

So why is it so hard for me to reassure myself of the same thing?  I think that it may be really difficult to recognize our own personal growth.  And maybe that's why, when we are in the midst of a problem, we can't see anything good about it-- because we don't see how we are blossoming and expanding and learning as a result-- and so we feel stuck or overcome by our external circumstances.  All we see are obstacles, because we fail to recognize our own resilience, fortitude, and creativity.

Perhaps, then, one of the simplest ways we can help others is by pointing out or reminding them of all the ways in which they are growing.  Most of the people I know are strong and I am always talking to other people about how persevering and inspiring and amazing my friends and family are -- but I don't always tell them directly!